Five Ways to Spot an Instigator

Spotting Instigators

Written By Sarah Hodges Instigators are lurking in your life right now.  They exist in your family, circle of friends, and in the workplace. They cause problems, and their interactions leave you with less energy - like a vampire who feeds off your positivity and optimism.  Sometimes they’re easy to spot, but many of them wear masks[...]

Triggered? Find Power in the Pause.

Finding Your Power

Written By Sarah Hodges Triggered? You know the feeling of being triggered. Someone cuts you off in traffic, and profanities flow from your mouth like a drunken sailor as you erratically zoom around him and flip him “the bird”. Your boss sends an accusatory email after work, and you can feel your face turn green as you morph into th[...]

Do You Really Know Yourself?

Knowing Yourself

Written By Sarah Hodges Do You Know Yourself? You are your most important companion, and knowing yourself is essential to success. But, how well do you really know yourself? I’m not talking about your habits, tendencies, and preferences. I mean, how well do you know yourself the way you know your closest companions? –The way you can f[...]

Ghosts of Your Past – How to Stop the Haunt

Stopping the Haunt

Written By Sarah Hodges The Ghosts in your Mind Remember when you were a child, and you asked your mom to keep the lights on when you went to bed at night? Even though your mom assured you that ghosts and monsters were not real, you didn’t buy it. So, your mom left your door open a crack or turned on your nightlight to stop the haunt. I[...]

Peer Pressure – It Didn’t End in High School

Peer Pressure

Written By Sarah Hodges Peer Pressure DNA Peer pressure didn’t end in high school. We like to think of ourselves as evolved individuals who have grown up. The truth is that when it comes to peer pressure, we’ve barely evolved since we were cavemen. It’s in our DNA. We are a social species subject to social evaluative threat. This i[...]

Attached to Expectations – A Recipe for Stress

Attached to Expectations

Written By Sarah Hodges Attached to Expectations Did you ever watch “The Office?”  Remember the time when Michael Scott, the eccentric manager played by Steve Carell, was so insistent on following his GPS that he drove his car right into a lake?  I still laugh to myself as I think of that scene.  Michael Scott had an e[...]

The Secret Safety of Self-Sabotage

Safety of Self-Sabotage

Written By Sarah Hodges The real reason you’re not achieving your goals… There is a secret safety in self-sabotage. No matter how badly you desire to achieve your goals, reaching them might be subconsciously scarier than staying stuck. Developing new habits and transforming your life is not only difficult, but it requires a certain a[...]

The Inner Critic

The Inner Critic

Written By Sarah Hodges The Audience Do you ever feel like you’re walking through life with an imaginary audience? Are you ever wondering what this audience is thinking about you?   What kinds of thoughts do you imagine them thinking about you? Fish Bowl I remember the days when I was obese.  I didn’t want to leave my apar[...]